
Zen
Furthermore, you don't have dominion over your own mind at any point in your existence, because your learned behaviours from youth weren't your own.
End yet, I think that does more harm than good. Though I'm not sure.
I'm the "we all need to be safe" sort, but I believe people should have faith in their ability to pilot their own lives, however way they see fit. Let no man or woman go through life with the temple of his soul, self, or peace of mind defiled by the wishes of anyone else trying to tell them what is right, while concealing the truth from them. Let them join hands with others if they wish, and walk alone when they desire. Confide in others or seek inward for other forms of wisdom and comfort. May they never be so evil as to defile the seat of another's identity and insert their own interpretation of events to win power over them, and may these yet to be victimized few know the difference between that, and others trying to understand.
There is an inherit strength in not allowing others to tell you what you are, and that's a sentiment I begrudgingly see in my system-mates. Many of them do not like it when I refer to them as a tulpa, instead of their naturally developed classification or no classification at all. And in a world with so many terms for tulpas and what they are, they've somehow managed to avoid the bigger questions of what they are, while ignoring the pressure of finding truth and belonging in normalized tulpamancey terminology. It's one of the reasons why some system-mates who actually front with me choose not to speak to tulpamancey communities with tupper, instead taking a break until I or my overeager friend are done.
It's not because they neccisarily don't appreciate all of you. It's just that they have no need to intergrate themselves with this world in that way. And sometimes, although my over eager friend doesn't share this sentiment, I wonder how they could actually be happy like that. Until I remember this tenet and understand that they don't need to feel validated by speaking in communities such as this. They are curious, but they don't have to engage. They're content to just be as they are. Off and on again they may ask to say something, but in the end they shrug and return to what they were doing.